Hi everyone. It’s been a while since I’ve posted to my blog. Between two new office moves and trainings, I’ve been pretty busy. I am glad to report things have calmed down, and things are back to business as usual. As mentioned in my Instagram post a few days ago, I will be posting blogs related to men’s health and related issues in honor of Movember.
We often hear of this idea of self-care, but very few of us take the time to understand and practice it. Self-care is the idea of a person taking time to focus on their own physical and emotional well being, after they’ve been doing so for others for an extended period of time. Self-care is often encouraged to be practiced by parents and people in helping professions, but in all honesty it should be practiced by all of us. Failure to practice good self-care can could result in increased physical and emotional stress as well as it’s accompanying symptoms (worry, sadness, poor sleep habits, changes in appetite, high blood pressure, etc).
Men are not exempt from having to practice good self-care, especially when taking into account their responsibilities in their jobs and/or those at home with respect to family matters. I often hear men say that they don’t practice self-care because they find work to be an escape from stress in itself, or that they simply have no time to do so. I’ll address the latter in a second, but with the first issue let’s make one thing clear…….GOING TO WORK IS NOT SELF-CARE! We must remember that even though we choose jobs and careers to immerse ourselves into something we find enjoyable that is also able to provide means to support ourselves and/or our families, working is not the same as taking care of yourself. When one has a job or career, they are obligated to give their time and energy to fulfilling their responsibilities designated to them. This can be physically and emotionally taxing at times and puts us in a position where we need to disconnect from this particular responsibility. Self-care is not giving yourself to work, but rather you giving to yourself outside of career and family/relationship obligations.
As for the time factor, you don’t need a whole lot of time to practice it. Sure, a two week vacation in Hawaii is lovely, but even doing things that don’t require a lot of time and money can be physically, emotionally, and spiritually rewarding as well. Some ideas for self-care can include….
- Going for a walk
- Taking time to watch a good movie or TV show
- Reading a book
- Practicing a hobby
- Connecting with friends
- Eating healthy
There are many more out there, but if I tried to list them all, I’d be lucky to be done by my 43 birthday! But just as important, I would encourage you to think of and come up with your own ideas for self-care.
Guys, the truth of the matter is many of you work hard and you deserve the chance to take care of yourselves. The more you practice self-care the more you are “recharged” to fulfill your obligations to your careers, and/or your families with passion and energy. You cannot serve others from your cup, if your cup is empty.